It is easy to get your panties in the twist
It is so easy to get carried away with feelings. Trying to figure out “what exactly did they say” or “what did they mean”. Social media and the types of conversation we have online easily add another layer to this.
Often it is our own judgement that leads us on, when it comes to taking offence to something, someone has said.
Here are some tips that you can use in your life that will help you stay calm, comprehend and avoid dramatic situations.
If I’m taking what someone says too personally, is it what they are saying OR what they are triggering for me that needs to be dealt with?
Look beyond what someone may be saying or how they are behaving. There is probably a good chance they are going through some stress in their own lives. It’s not necessarily about you.
Suspend your judgement, and be open to possibilities. If we quickly jump to conclusions, we’ll develop assumptions instead of getting the full story.
When we think ‘it’s everyone else’s fault’ then we are powerless to change anything. Think about what is my part in the situation, and what or how can I change that. That’s all I can do – change how I think or feel about it.
Remember, we are all perfectly imperfect. If we believe people should live up to our expectations, then we will encounter disappointment. William Glasser said “I have noticed that happy people are constantly evaluating themselves and unhappy people are constantly evaluating others”.
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